The Best Present of All

Upon entering college, my family decided Santa didn’t need to bring me anymore presents under the tree because education was my gift. While this may seem odd or even sad to some, I am grateful for this decision. Not only do I receive the incredible gift of college, but I also developed a deeper sense of what Christmas is all about.

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For example, instead of waking up on Christmas morning, racing down the stairs, and tearing open the numerous packages from the North Pole, my mom and I make breakfast. This year’s meal will be hot, homemade cinnamon rolls with Honey Baked Ham and fresh hot chocolate. Mmmmm… I cannot wait.

As we eat, my family usually watches a Christmas movie or animated cartoon. In the past, we enjoyed classics such as White Christmas and It Happened on Fifth Avenue, or cute shows like Annabelle the Christmas Cow and The Little Drummer Boy. Whatever we decide on, we always watch it as if that is our first time viewing it. In other words, we just really learn to appreciate all the little details.

Next, we’ll start preparing our meal by putting in the pumpkin pie to bake. In the meantime, we prepare the turkey so that it can start roasting slowly throughout the afternoon.

After the cooking is underway, my mom and I will walk our dog as long as the weather cooperates. Sometimes we are able to drive over to a local park and take our time wandering through the forest, trying to spot deer, ducks, and wolves (just kidding). One time, we arrived at the park around one in the afternoon, walked, and returned to the car only to discover we spent nearly three hours in the forest. In our minds, we thought we were only gone for an hour or so. Who cares, though? We had fun.

Back at home, we usually eat a little “snack,” meaning some sort of candy and eggnog. A few years ago, we bought some Russell Stover and Whitman’s candy boxes, but we were disappointed in the variety. So now we enjoy other treats, such as buckeyes or coconut chocolate stacks. As we nibble, my family usually plays a game. My mom and I really enjoy the card game, Skip-Bo, but we all like Christmas in a Box, which is the holiday version of Monopoly.

Before we know it, dinner time arrives. So, my mom and I put on our aprons and begin fixing the side dishes for our meal. Since we love the food at Thanksgiving so much, we just repeat the same menu. As such, we feast on turkey, mashed potatoes, stuffing, cranberry sauce, cornbread, and green bean casserole. Honestly, I could eat this meal every single day and never get sick of it.

During our meal, we play a Christmas CD in the background. Some of my favorites holiday singers include Andy Griffith, Frank Sinatra, Perry Como, Bing Crosby, Andy Williams, Bobby Vinton… Basically all of the crooners. What can I say? I guess I’m an old soul! (If you’re looking for a holiday song perfect for any time of the year, check out Perry’s Love is Spreading All Over the World!)

After cleaning dishes, we all gather together to enjoy another movie. Again, we love the classics, but some Hallmark movies, such as The Christmas Card and A Grandpa for Christmas, are great too! To accompany our movie, we slice up the pumpkin pie and finish the evening on a sweet note.

Sadly, after the movie, we all head off to bed because the day comes to an end. However, I never feel sad or anything throughout the day, even without opening presents. Why? Because Christmas is so much more than the gifts. Although this sounds cheesy, Christmas is about love. In other words, it’s about celebrating the love between family members, the love between friends, the love between God and His children. As such, we always include Christ in our festivities. Even if we just look at our manger or appreciate God’s creation in the park, we remember to thank God for the best gift of all, the one the matters the most: His Son, our Lord.

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May you all have a very Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays. Enjoy the time with your loved ones and thank God for His love. I wish you the best this time of year and always.


Sincerely,

Ash




 

The Best Present of All

Stepping Off the Scale

“I’m happy with the way I look,” I told myself, staring into the mirror.

Yet, when I looked down to see what the scale read, that thought quickly disappeared. Rather than letting my confidence take control, I would let the numbers win. As such, I evaluated my self-worth by my weight—not the wisest decision.

This habit went on for a few months, perhaps even a year. Thankfully, though, I broke away from the scale’s power by deciding not to weigh myself anymore.

Since making that change, I’ve not only become healthier—I’ve become happier.

The scale does not know you. It cannot know the wonderful human being stepping on it. So, why do we let it determine if we are skinny/pretty/healthy enough?

Numbers are only numbers. Yes, it’s important to be aware of your body. However, constantly worrying about the numbers on the scale can cause us to become obsessed with our bodies. See the difference?

To avoid that scenario, we can use alternate methods to monitor our bodies without the negative effects of the scale. For example, try monitoring how your clothes feel on you: are they tighter, or are they looser? In fact, you could even just focus on how you feel: have you been happier lately?

Of course, I am not a doctor. But, speaking from experience, I think we all could benefit from a little self-love.

Who cares what the scale says? Don’t let the numbers decide your worth. Whether you’re underweight, overweight or right on target, you are a human being. You have dignity and you are valuable. You can accomplish any of your goals or dreams. You deserve a life full of happiness and peace.

So, treat your body as gift: be thankful for each limb you have and each movement you make.


Sincerely,

Ash




 

Stepping Off the Scale

My Older Brother

Thanks to television and movies, I have always secretly wanted an older brother. Now, do not get me wrong, I love my family and would not change a thing about. But, I consistently thought it would be neat to have that one person who would help me with that tricky math problem, who would be my date to a school dance or who would stand up for me after a boy broke my heart—you know, just the seemingly classic older brother.

However, as the years continued to pass and I continued to grow, I have come to realize that I have had an older brother my entire life.

His name is Jesus.

While He cannot physically look over my shoulder, typing numbers into a calculator to help me with my math homework, physically dance around the room with me or physically dry my tears, He can, and certainly does, fulfill an older brother’s greatest task: loving me.

Perhaps in the past I longed for that absent sibling because my relationship with Jesus was simple and based upon what my teachers told me in school. But now, through my own college studies, personal prayer and readings, I have a better understanding, albeit imperfect, knowledge of Him. Specifically, I know that Jesus is always by my side, rooting for me and leading me to righteousness even when I sin. Also, I realize that simply talking to Him as if He was physically in the room actually causes Him to be present. Stated otherwise, just like Jesus presents Himself in the Eucharist after the priest blesses it, when we talk to Jesus, He enters our world, our homes and our lives to establish an everlasting relationship. Furthermore, Jesus fills any role we long for in our lives, meaning that whenever we feel alone or incomplete, Jesus satisfies us.

Of course, this relationship must not be solely focused on us and our needs. In particular, just as much as we yearn for divine love, Jesus desires our earthly love. So, while we use prayer to invoke His presence, we also ought to use that same vehicle to praise and adore Him. If we fail to do so, Jesus’ love will not cease, but we will develop an ill relationship. In fact, just like an actual biological relationship with an older brother, each sibling must take time to show appreciation for each other. Otherwise, both of them may not truly understand the dynamics of their bond, resulting in less interaction and weaker respect for one another.

Thus, whenever I struggle with homework, feel alone or let the world get me down, I know that I have an older brother constantly watching out for me and consoling me.

So, yes, I still long for an older brother, but not simply the kind from television and movies. Rather, I long for my older brother and His hugs. But, I know that longing will be satisfied fully when He comes again in His glory to be with me, and all of us, forever.


Sincerely,

Ash




 

My Older Brother

We Still Love Lucy

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Yes, it was just a television show aimed to generate laughs. However, throughout its episodes, I Love Lucy became much more than a half hour comedy. In fact, through the lives of Ricky and Lucy Ricardo along with the company of their neighbors, Fred and Ethel Mertz, the hilariously outlandish antics of this classic series truly present us with five lessons about how to approach life.


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First, always stand up for what you believe in.

Even if you need to don a fake beard because you want your husband to shave off his mustache, do it. In order to make a difference, you must be strong. So, whenever you know something is right, never let people deter you from your opinion. Thus, like Lucy, be courageous and do whatever it takes to create the change you seek.

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Second, surround yourself with those who make you the best version of yourself.

I Love Lucy would not be the show it was and still is without Fred and Ethel. Although friendships may include a few spats and silent treatments (especially when lawsuits are filed over broken television sets), the unbreakable mutual care and concern for each other will prevail. So, whether we rely on a parent, a sibling or a neighbor, we all need at least one person by our sides who challenges us to go outside of our comfort zones and be the best we can be.

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Third, your personality is more valuable than your looks.

Without a doubt, Lucille Ball was gorgeous. However, beauty includes more than just our appearances. In fact, even when wearing a potato sack dress, Lucy proves that a good attitude is what truly matters most. Thus, do not worry about buying only designer clothes or fancy sports cars. Rather, be happy with what you have and let your personality shine through.

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Fourth, never be afraid to try something new.

Even when her job at the chocolate factory was not so sweet, Lucy showed us that we at least need to put our best effort forward. We will never known our own strengths and passions if we let our fears control us. So, do something new and wacky, challenging yourself to be bold and daring.

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Fifth, be yourself.

Even amid the most embarrassing situations like getting her foot stuck in a pail of cement, Lucy taught us to be proud of who we are. No matter what situation we face or what other people say about us, we have to know our own self-worth and present ourselves as quirky, yet irreplaceable. Simply put, we decide who we are and thus, ought to be who we want.


 

Decades later, although we are only left with reruns now, these lessons and more serve as proof as to why we still love Lucy.


Sincerely,

Ash




 

 

We Still Love Lucy